Man being judged

We judge from the perspective of our values. To refrain from judging involves ignoring our own experience.

Infra Language shows us that our values are built, bit-by-bit, from our experiences. Those experiences create conclusions that accumulate until they become beliefs.

You hear people say: “Don’t judge.” Sometimes, they really mean: “Don’t judge others negatively.”

But, judging positively or negatively is still judging. And, to refrain from judging must mean that we deny our own experiences and conclusions.

Being too quick to judge can be bad, no doubt. However, judging carefully and compassionately is probably a positive. It helps us to refine our own values in a subtle and ongoing way that can lead us to greater wisdom.

Maybe we should dump that saying “Don’t judge people.” We could replace it with “Judge people slowly.”

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